Top Five: Review and Wake-Up Call

I regret to inform you that this is not a positive review. :shrugs:

From the advertisements seen and the posters displayed, the movie looked to simply be funny. We haven’t seen Chris Rock on the scene in a while, so many, like myself and my husband expected the movie to be funny. Before all the nonsense occurred there were times we laughed, but the movie was a lightweight porn. Let’s just keep it all the way live. There was one scene in the movie that was completely unnecessary and completely sickening. It was a flashback to a part of the character Andre Allen’s (Rock) life where he said he was his lowest. There were two women that came back to his hotel room, ate with him, then got drunk, got naked and had sex. It showed Andre having sex with these women, then showed Cedric the Entertainer doing the same thing. It was the only flashback in the movie. It honestly could have been left out because it really added no great impact to the story line. Then there was the strip club scene and all of the cussing and calling women out of their names throughout the movie. This unnecessary use of nudity and cursing brought down the whole effect the movie was supposed to have. So NO, I would NOT suggest going to see it.

Lately, I’ve been irritated with the way women are portrayed and being treated by society. We are props to movies like these. Before the movie came on, there was a preview with more nudity in it! Pretty soon, all movies will be riding that fine line between a movie being entertainment and it being a porn. Eventually, porn will become the norm on the big screen. WAKE UP! This is where we are headed if we don’t do something about it! It all starts with the revealing of a woman’s body. Not a male’s body parts, but a woman. Women are continuously used as props to make a movie dirty and somewhat entertaining. There is no respect. There is no compassion.

I was even more shocked that the co-producers on the project were Jay-Z and Kanye West. Both who have recently married and have young daughters. Yet they chose to participate in the filming of this project and who knows what else. It saddens me to think that their wives and especially their daughters have not changed something within them to want to do right by women and publicly show their respect for them. No I’m not talking about buying them gifts and kissing them in front of the paparazzi. I’m talking about showing respect for all women by taking some type of stand. What if North and Blue Ivy decided that they want to get involved in a movie where they show their bodies? How would they feel then? Would they co-produce that movie?

Unfortunately, it isn’t just the fault of men. Ladies we have A LOT of work to do. Where is our value? What have we done with ourselves? Have we gotten to a place so low within ourselves that our 8-10 minutes of fame will be our behind on camera twerking or some man fondling our breasts? What examples are we setting for our babies, both boys and girls? Are we telling our girls that it’s okay to shake your behind on camera? Are we telling our boys that it’s okay to call us out of our name and use our bodies for their pleasures outside of marriage? I mean WHAT?!?!?! No longer am I to the point where I will discuss how sickened I am about the women that do this. Now I’m to the point where I just want to pray for them. I pray that they find their purpose in life. I pray that God reveals to them the beauty that they possess. I pray that He gives them their purity back and helps them to maintain it.

Let 2015 be the year you don’t compromise on this.

Men, don’t get involved in or treat women like props and animals. Treat them like the Queens they are.

Ladies, reinstate your royalty. You are not a piece of meat. You are not your body. You have purpose in this life that extends beyond your backside and your breasts.

It’s time to stop this MESS. Stop making excuses for why you do the things you do. It’s time for CHANGE!



How to REALLY be NEW in the New Year

We all know the usual sayings.

“This year, I’m going to be a whole new person.” 

“This year, I’m acting brand new”

We’ve all said it. We’ve all made plans on New Year’s Eve to be brand new in the New Year. Then the second week comes in January and we’re back to the same old tricks, talking to the same old people, making the same old mistakes. It happens. Why?

We use our own strength and ability to try to be “new” The issue is that when we use our own strength to try and undo what we’ve done for so long, we fail. Some of the habits we’ve created and gotten wrapped up in have become who we are. Whether it’s smoking, hanging with the wrong type of people, getting drunk, or sleeping around, those habits and ways of life were not created overnight. They formulated themselves over time. So it will take more than our strength and ability to get us out of the mess we’ve put ourselves in. If all we needed was our strength to make it through and become new when we wanted to, we wouldn’t have to make the same declaration every year. We need Jesus. There I said it. 🙂

We’ve got to get to the point where we get sick of going through the same cycles over and over again.

Don’t we get tired of crying the same ol’ tears? Don’t we get tired of going through the same issues and saying the same things over and over? Why do we want to keep going through the same things all the time? We obviously can’t do it alone because we keep having the same problems!

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 

~ 2 Corinthians 5:17

Notice how this scripture talks about being new! We all say we want to be new, and here it is. We become new creatures. All the old is gone and everything becomes new! But the first part of the scripture says “If any man be in Christ” That means that Christ is in the equation for us to be new creatures.

I know that from my past issues with lust and fornication, I couldn’t have done it without Christ. Why? Because it was something my body liked to do. It was something I liked to do. But when I started praying for His grace and mercy, His strength came into the equation and my life changed. I became brand new! But I didn’t and couldn’t have done it without Him.

So if you’re struggling or within a cycle you want to get out of, or if you’re simply trying to be brand new for the new year, add Christ to the equation and watch how Christ works.

Don’t believe me, just watch 🙂


Change the Image. Get the Promise.

Check out this amazing post by my Mr! I talk about him all the time, now you can actually read what he writes!! Follow and read!

To My Generation

To my generation of Gentlemen,

There is a power within each of us to possess the promises of God for our lives. Although this may sound strange to some its true. In the midst of everything currently going on in our lives; the good, the bad, the ugly, and the indifferent, God has special and unique plans for each of us. It’s so important that we realize and own this understanding. I am learning to own this thought for myself.

Its hard for some us to access the promises of God because we don’t see ourselves as worthy. Many times we construct images of ourselves that are manufactured by past experiences whether successful or painful. There is a danger in doing so because these images don’t always align with the image Jesus has of us. These images that we construct for ourselves become our reality. For some, these images are…

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How Did I Get Here?

I been slackin…. But I have a good reason this time

:drumroll: I am now a resident of Baltimore, MD!!!! :does dance:

So my husband and I are corps members for Teach for America and we’ll both be teaching Elementary School in just a few short weeks! Crazy right?

I’ve continuously just thought about how I got here, and I can honestly say I have no clue… But I DO know that I got here by the grace and plans of God and God alone. Everything going on in my life right now I never dreamed of, thought of, spoke… nada. Everyday is a big shock to me as to where I am and how I got here. To be able to say that I am going to have a full time job impacting the lives of students, receiving a salary in Baltimore, MD with my husband of almost two years is still mind blowing to me.

This time two years ago, I was heading back to graduate school, still planning on being an opera singer, while in the back of my mind knowing that something else was out there for me. Those few thoughts that something else was out there for me was simply the planting of seeds to get me to where I am now. All I had to do was take that step. But it wasn’t easy. I told my mom today that when I left graduate school, it was like jumping off of a cliff into a foggy area down below with a still, small voice saying “Just jump. I got you”… and that voice being God. It’s never easy doing it either. But when God has proved Himself so much to you in your life, you literally have no excuse when God simply asks you to Jump. He never forces you and ultimately leaves the choice in your hand. But when you’ve lived a life full of God simply taking GREAT care of you, it makes you want to jump… especially when it means becoming and doing all that you were created to be and do.

You capable of more than your present situation right now. Even if you don’t have a degree in it . YOU CAN DO IT!

Our world tells us that if we didn’t go to school for it, take a class in it, attend a seminar on it that we can’t do it. BUT I’m here to tell you that THAT is a LIE. If God has purposed you for it, you can do it. He will and has given you the grace and everything you need to move forward to be the BEST you He purposed you to be. But it’s not just for you, it’s for the others in this world you’re meant to touch and help to become their best selves as well.

I can’t tell you how excited I am to begin this school year to teach these amazing 1st graders not just math and science, but how to be their best selves. I’m excited to see what God has in store for me and my Mr. here in this city of Baltimore, MD. We’re ready to work and be all that God has created us to be!

Pray for us!

~The Mrs.

The One Man

The One Man by Allyson R.

He Loves Me

How Can I Tell?

It’s obvious

Listen to how He talks to me

He speaks of a love

That I’ve never known before

And will never know

Without Him around

His words are so genuine

I know they’re the truth


I have evidence

I remember the lies that were told to me

I remember the promises spoken to me

I remember the love I thought I had

And I compare it

I compare it to His truth

I compare it to the unbroken vows

I compare it to the love I know I have

That’s how I know

He’s the one man that I can depend on

He’s the one man that has never broken my heart

He’s the one man that’s never had to explain Himself

I’ve never had to question His love for me

His actions speak volumes

Compared to the smaller things done

After one special event

I knew He was the One

With 3 nails

1 Cross

He created a 4 ever for us

And it continues daily

I mess up

I ignore Him

I don’t talk to Him for a while

But He still Loves me

It’s a love I need

It’s one I know I can depend

It will always exist

It is always present

I can’t escape it

I can’t shake it

I can’t tell Him to stop

Because He won’t

He loves me

And I love Him

He’ll always be

The One Man

My Natural Hair Update: 8 months

My Natural Hair Journey!

I decided to do a natural hair update blog instead of video 🙂

My natural hair journey has been just that… a journey. There have been many ups and few downs, but overall, it has truly been a pleasure.

A lot of my journey has been spent discovering what my hair can and cannot do. All the YouTube videos with naturalistas look amazing, but some of it just wasn’t me or didn’t work on me. I’m guessing that my hair type is a 4b, based on the curl pattern.

I’ve tried two protective styles; box braids and weave, both of which lasted no more than a month unfortunately. My sew-in had me all messed up because I didn’t use protective heat styling tools and so I had heat damage at the front of my head, which made me take my sew in ALL THE WAY OUT because I didn’t want to have to cut most of my hair because of heat damage and didn’t want to wear a hat everyday… and the ITCH was AWFUL! My hair was a little too short for box braids. Two weeks in, I had two braids falling out a day. Truth be told…. I missed my hair.

It has really been a blessing to see what comes out of my scalp without the chemicals. I had no clue I had curly hair. My mom has gorgeous curly hair, so I wondered if mine would be something like it and it is… just a little smaller and a few more kinks 🙂

As you see in some of my pictures, I had blonde highlights put at the tips of my hair. It was great while it lasted, but honestly, I had a lot of breakage at the end of my hair when it started to grow out. It was dry and just not cutting it anymore. I had it for about 5 months and loved it. I still have some of the brown rinse that was placed on my hair with the blonde still in my hair and I love the color of it against my natural hair color which is a darker brown. After I took out my weave, I cut the blonde out completely so I could have cleaner and better looking ends.

My staple products of the moment are Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Moisture Retention Shampoo, As I Am Coconut Cowash, Cantu Shea Butter Leave-In Conditioning Repair Cream, Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Curl Enhancing Smoothie. I usually only wash on weekends and maybe cowash every 3-4 days. I’m in the process of learning how to maintain styles over a few days instead of just one.

I LOVE two strand twists. Last night I used perm rods and achieved this look:

Perm Rods Look! …. which I LOVE!

Right now I’m just learning new things to do with my hair. My length is kinda awkward, but I’m learning to work with it the best I can.

Of course I’m praying for growth, but right now the back, the middle, and the left side are all 5 in. The top is 3 1/2 and the right side is 4 1/3. I’m proud of how much my hair has grown. I take biotin… when I remember (lol).

If you have any questions just post them below!!

My Epiphany of Beauty

A few days ago, My Black is Beautiful was spreading the word about their search for My Black is Beautiful Ambassadors. I was excited and read through their Official Rules. Within the rules was the question “What is Beauty?”. I sat up and paused for a moment. I looked over at my Mr. and sparked up a conversation about what we thought beauty was. Of course his answer was intellectual and amazing (lol), but I couldn’t put into words what beauty was… and then as I started to answer, the words began to flow…

Beauty is the uniqueness of a person. It seemed to cliché of course, but at the same time, it has a new meaning.

After reading about the new OCD (Check out my blog about it!) being Obsessive Comparison Disorder, this epiphany about what beauty is took my mind on a different route. We sit and compare ourselves all day to someone else, envying and coveting who they are, what they’ve done and what they have, that our sadness and depression comes from not being them. The issue is that we disregard who we are to covet who they are, ignoring the fact that we have accomplishments, success stories, and so much more that we’ve done. We’ve forgotten about celebrating one another and owning who we are… our unique gifts to society.

Do you realize that there is no one else on this plant and that there will be no one else on the planet to look, talk, and walk like you do? There is no one who can travel the path you have traveled, endure the hardships you have endured, and tell your story like you can. You are unique. God wanted to do it that way because He knew through the different being He created on this planet, He could do different things. If we all looked alike and did the same things, what use would there be for differences?

Picture yourself in an audition room. They call your name. You walk up but they’re confused because you look just like the last person. There’s nothing to make you stand out from everyone else because everyone is trying to be everyone else. Some want to look like Beyoncé. Some want to look like Nicki Minaj. Some want to look like Taylor Swift. Some want to be Jay-Z. Some want to be Trey Songz. But it seems like NO ONE wants to be themselves. Everyone wants to put together pieces of other people to represent themselves… and that is simply NOT YOU!

Who are you when all the influences from the outside world are taken away? If no one told you that you’re a good singer or dancer, would you even be doing it? What do you have to bring to the table? What we’re all trying to bring now has already been brought. We don’t want remakes, WE WANT ORIGINALS!

There is a reason that there are only 7 Wonders of the World. They each embody something that has never been seen or done before. It takes the breath away of those who lay eyes on it. It can’t be duplicated. People travel from all over the world to see them. People spend money to see them because they know that they will never see it anywhere else. The unique qualities about you is truly a wonder because it has never been seen or done before. But if we spend our time trying to mimic and be something else, we get looked over because “that’s been done before.”

There is beauty in the differences the we all have. There is beauty in your hair, your body, your voice, your talents, your gifts, your smile, your eyes… you are beautiful just the way God made you because He made NO ONE ELSE LIKE YOU. Embrace and enjoy the beauty in the uniqueness of others, then look at yourself and embrace your own.

~The Mrs.