Back with the second part of ‘Why I’m Married and You’re Not’!
When we last left off, I was giving some background info on what I did before I got married, the preparations that I made before I even said “I Do”. But this blog… I’m taking in a whole different direction 🙂
We as people have a lot of personal issues… can we just be real? We hold on too long to those we shouldn’t even be friends with, but we let go or mess up the ones who treated us right. It’s almost like we are afraid to be treated right. Sounds crazy, but it’s the truth. So I’m just going to be real with yall for a minute. Is that cool?
1) Stop Going Back. Now I could stop right there because in its simpliest form, we can see the meaning. Now I’m not talking about the more difficult situations where people are going through more than we can imagine, but I’m talking to the people who are going back just because they don’t want to be alone for a moment. I dealt with that too, and it was a hard point. I was in two awful relationships with people who verbally abused me, causing me to have to get myself together in the end… and I kept going back when I should’ve just stayed away! They are not and will not be the only people who ever like you or show you attention in your life. There are billions of people on the planet…. you WILL get someone better.
2) Stop Falling For the Randoms. Now YOU know who they are. They are simply people who we talk to in order to pass the time away. We don’t like them for real. In fact, they aren’t even that cute. They are simply there to fill a void and a space. They could be the guy you only call when you feel like playing hard to get. It could be that girl you only text when you want some. They are simply just a filler… like when you don’t know what to say and you start to say “umm” and “like”… They are a waste of your time, which is precious. Stop talking, texting, and sexing the Umms and Likes in your life. (lol)
3) Stop Thinking You Deserve The Worst. Yes, you may have issues. You may have a very ugly past. You have been a dog before. You’ve played with people’s hearts. You don’t have a lot of money. This may all be true and more, but you do not deserve the worst in a significant other. I believe that some people settle because they don’t feel like they will get anyone better based on who they are or their past. So a man may date a woman he doesn’t even like because he doesn’t think he can approach the woman he desires to have as a wife. A woman may continue to date a man who treats her bad because she doesn’t feel as if she’s worthy of being treated like a lady. But YOU ARE WORTH IT!
That’s all for now… I might have more later (lol)
Love you guys!