Top Five: Review and Wake-Up Call

I regret to inform you that this is not a positive review. :shrugs:

From the advertisements seen and the posters displayed, the movie looked to simply be funny. We haven’t seen Chris Rock on the scene in a while, so many, like myself and my husband expected the movie to be funny. Before all the nonsense occurred there were times we laughed, but the movie was a lightweight porn. Let’s just keep it all the way live. There was one scene in the movie that was completely unnecessary and completely sickening. It was a flashback to a part of the character Andre Allen’s (Rock) life where he said he was his lowest. There were two women that came back to his hotel room, ate with him, then got drunk, got naked and had sex. It showed Andre having sex with these women, then showed Cedric the Entertainer doing the same thing. It was the only flashback in the movie. It honestly could have been left out because it really added no great impact to the story line. Then there was the strip club scene and all of the cussing and calling women out of their names throughout the movie. This unnecessary use of nudity and cursing brought down the whole effect the movie was supposed to have. So NO, I would NOT suggest going to see it.

Lately, I’ve been irritated with the way women are portrayed and being treated by society. We are props to movies like these. Before the movie came on, there was a preview with more nudity in it! Pretty soon, all movies will be riding that fine line between a movie being entertainment and it being a porn. Eventually, porn will become the norm on the big screen. WAKE UP! This is where we are headed if we don’t do something about it! It all starts with the revealing of a woman’s body. Not a male’s body parts, but a woman. Women are continuously used as props to make a movie dirty and somewhat entertaining. There is no respect. There is no compassion.

I was even more shocked that the co-producers on the project were Jay-Z and Kanye West. Both who have recently married and have young daughters. Yet they chose to participate in the filming of this project and who knows what else. It saddens me to think that their wives and especially their daughters have not changed something within them to want to do right by women and publicly show their respect for them. No I’m not talking about buying them gifts and kissing them in front of the paparazzi. I’m talking about showing respect for all women by taking some type of stand. What if North and Blue Ivy decided that they want to get involved in a movie where they show their bodies? How would they feel then? Would they co-produce that movie?

Unfortunately, it isn’t just the fault of men. Ladies we have A LOT of work to do. Where is our value? What have we done with ourselves? Have we gotten to a place so low within ourselves that our 8-10 minutes of fame will be our behind on camera twerking or some man fondling our breasts? What examples are we setting for our babies, both boys and girls? Are we telling our girls that it’s okay to shake your behind on camera? Are we telling our boys that it’s okay to call us out of our name and use our bodies for their pleasures outside of marriage? I mean WHAT?!?!?! No longer am I to the point where I will discuss how sickened I am about the women that do this. Now I’m to the point where I just want to pray for them. I pray that they find their purpose in life. I pray that God reveals to them the beauty that they possess. I pray that He gives them their purity back and helps them to maintain it.

Let 2015 be the year you don’t compromise on this.

Men, don’t get involved in or treat women like props and animals. Treat them like the Queens they are.

Ladies, reinstate your royalty. You are not a piece of meat. You are not your body. You have purpose in this life that extends beyond your backside and your breasts.

It’s time to stop this MESS. Stop making excuses for why you do the things you do. It’s time for CHANGE!



My Epiphany of Beauty

A few days ago, My Black is Beautiful was spreading the word about their search for My Black is Beautiful Ambassadors. I was excited and read through their Official Rules. Within the rules was the question “What is Beauty?”. I sat up and paused for a moment. I looked over at my Mr. and sparked up a conversation about what we thought beauty was. Of course his answer was intellectual and amazing (lol), but I couldn’t put into words what beauty was… and then as I started to answer, the words began to flow…

Beauty is the uniqueness of a person. It seemed to cliché of course, but at the same time, it has a new meaning.

After reading about the new OCD (Check out my blog about it!) being Obsessive Comparison Disorder, this epiphany about what beauty is took my mind on a different route. We sit and compare ourselves all day to someone else, envying and coveting who they are, what they’ve done and what they have, that our sadness and depression comes from not being them. The issue is that we disregard who we are to covet who they are, ignoring the fact that we have accomplishments, success stories, and so much more that we’ve done. We’ve forgotten about celebrating one another and owning who we are… our unique gifts to society.

Do you realize that there is no one else on this plant and that there will be no one else on the planet to look, talk, and walk like you do? There is no one who can travel the path you have traveled, endure the hardships you have endured, and tell your story like you can. You are unique. God wanted to do it that way because He knew through the different being He created on this planet, He could do different things. If we all looked alike and did the same things, what use would there be for differences?

Picture yourself in an audition room. They call your name. You walk up but they’re confused because you look just like the last person. There’s nothing to make you stand out from everyone else because everyone is trying to be everyone else. Some want to look like Beyoncé. Some want to look like Nicki Minaj. Some want to look like Taylor Swift. Some want to be Jay-Z. Some want to be Trey Songz. But it seems like NO ONE wants to be themselves. Everyone wants to put together pieces of other people to represent themselves… and that is simply NOT YOU!

Who are you when all the influences from the outside world are taken away? If no one told you that you’re a good singer or dancer, would you even be doing it? What do you have to bring to the table? What we’re all trying to bring now has already been brought. We don’t want remakes, WE WANT ORIGINALS!

There is a reason that there are only 7 Wonders of the World. They each embody something that has never been seen or done before. It takes the breath away of those who lay eyes on it. It can’t be duplicated. People travel from all over the world to see them. People spend money to see them because they know that they will never see it anywhere else. The unique qualities about you is truly a wonder because it has never been seen or done before. But if we spend our time trying to mimic and be something else, we get looked over because “that’s been done before.”

There is beauty in the differences the we all have. There is beauty in your hair, your body, your voice, your talents, your gifts, your smile, your eyes… you are beautiful just the way God made you because He made NO ONE ELSE LIKE YOU. Embrace and enjoy the beauty in the uniqueness of others, then look at yourself and embrace your own.

~The Mrs.