So You WANT To Be A Loser?

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ~Marianne Williamson

Why do we voluntarily want to be losers? Why do we chose to be less than what we were created to be?

We work jobs just to pay bills. We tolerate awful relationships so that we won’t be lonely. We hang out with people whose vision is just as invisible as ours is… and yet we convince ourselves that we are doing great.

The quote above is one of my favorites. I’ve posted it in a previous post, but it always rings in my head. We’re afraid of our own power! We’re afraid that we are greater than we could ever imagine. We’re scared to step outside of the box we’ve been placed in because we won’t be with our friends or families. We want to be comfortable inside the box because that’s where everyone else is. But what good is that doing for you? You regret half the decisions you make, you’re angry with yourself for not doing better, and most of the time you don’t even like your life! DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

I don’t know about yall, but I’m tired of living just to be living. I’m tired of not making a great impact on the world around me. Who knows what will happen when I decide to live out my purpose and change the world around me? Who knows if when I step out and decide to be great, that others will believe that they too can be great?

WE CAN ALL BE GREAT!! We are filled with the amazing power of the Holy Spirit, which is God inside of us!

I’m talking about the same God that created the earth. I’m talking about the same God that gave Moses the power to part the sea. I’m talking about the same God who created every single person on this earth, whether they want to admit it or not. I’m talking about the same God who knew how to craft women’s bodies to birth a child on the inside. I’m talking about the same God that created all the different types of flowers, trees, birds, animals, fish, foods, and people.

That God lives on the inside of you and I! Which means that we have access to all that power! We can change nations! We can change lives! We can create and affect the places around us! We have the power to do so!

So why do we live mediocre, safe lives? Why are we afraid?

Let’s do better! Step outside of that comfort zone. Step out from among those who aren’t trying to do anything but eat, sleep, work, and die. Let’s stop pushing everyone else’s vision and make everyone else money, and let’s push our own vision and make our own money!

Stop Being a Loser.

~Ally A.


How Did I Get Here?

I been slackin…. But I have a good reason this time

:drumroll: I am now a resident of Baltimore, MD!!!! :does dance:

So my husband and I are corps members for Teach for America and we’ll both be teaching Elementary School in just a few short weeks! Crazy right?

I’ve continuously just thought about how I got here, and I can honestly say I have no clue… But I DO know that I got here by the grace and plans of God and God alone. Everything going on in my life right now I never dreamed of, thought of, spoke… nada. Everyday is a big shock to me as to where I am and how I got here. To be able to say that I am going to have a full time job impacting the lives of students, receiving a salary in Baltimore, MD with my husband of almost two years is still mind blowing to me.

This time two years ago, I was heading back to graduate school, still planning on being an opera singer, while in the back of my mind knowing that something else was out there for me. Those few thoughts that something else was out there for me was simply the planting of seeds to get me to where I am now. All I had to do was take that step. But it wasn’t easy. I told my mom today that when I left graduate school, it was like jumping off of a cliff into a foggy area down below with a still, small voice saying “Just jump. I got you”… and that voice being God. It’s never easy doing it either. But when God has proved Himself so much to you in your life, you literally have no excuse when God simply asks you to Jump. He never forces you and ultimately leaves the choice in your hand. But when you’ve lived a life full of God simply taking GREAT care of you, it makes you want to jump… especially when it means becoming and doing all that you were created to be and do.

You capable of more than your present situation right now. Even if you don’t have a degree in it . YOU CAN DO IT!

Our world tells us that if we didn’t go to school for it, take a class in it, attend a seminar on it that we can’t do it. BUT I’m here to tell you that THAT is a LIE. If God has purposed you for it, you can do it. He will and has given you the grace and everything you need to move forward to be the BEST you He purposed you to be. But it’s not just for you, it’s for the others in this world you’re meant to touch and help to become their best selves as well.

I can’t tell you how excited I am to begin this school year to teach these amazing 1st graders not just math and science, but how to be their best selves. I’m excited to see what God has in store for me and my Mr. here in this city of Baltimore, MD. We’re ready to work and be all that God has created us to be!

Pray for us!

~The Mrs.

Watch How You Talk To Me!!

Me and the Mr. have been making it a habit to stick to a Marriage Bible Study with YouVersion’s Bible App called One: A Marriage Devotional by Jimmy Evans. Today we read from Proverbs 15:1 (NIV) which read;

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. 

Jimmy Evans went on to explain how important it is to speak to your significant other in a more gentle, and calm tone than one that would let everyone know you all are having it out. He had a challenge at the end for the husband and wife to discuss better way to talk to one another and discuss ways they needed to improve. My Mr. and I have already had this conversation a few times about us watching how we talk to one another when we argue and even on a regular basis. Are we kind to one another in our words? Are we mindful of the other person’s feelings in the situation or do we just care about how we feel and just want to get our point across to prove we’re right?

We don’t realize how much power we have in our words when it comes to speaking to our significant others. Many times we’re the only positive input in their day. Think about a husband that goes to work everyday at an ungrateful place. All they hear all day is complaints and things they’re doing wrong. So when he gets home, he needs encouragement. He needs to be built up in some way. Women deal with the mental processing of having to be constantly compared to other women in the world. Her hair is either not long enough, too long, and she may wear too much or not enough make up, while not wearing the right clothing or having the best body. Women step outside and feel like we just walked onto a runway, where we’ll be judged for how we look to others. So when she gets home, she needs encouragement, as well as words to make her feel good. So many times as a spouse, we don’t pay as much attention as we should to how we talk to someone… when and how to say things…. how to just be encouraging.

Of course we may deal with a spouse who’s hard headed and doesn’t listen, or a spouse who does nothing to change when we say we’re upset, but we have to be mindful in our speech towards one another. When you get into a marriage or relationship, you’re making a commitment to care for this person. You’re saying to them “At the end of the day, you can come to me and I will take care of you.” “The world may not know how wonderful you are, but I do.” “I care about you.” But how often do we show that to the other person? How often do we tell the other person? How often do we show that, without having to say it, through our actions on a daily basis?

I challenge you to take the time to work on how you speak to your significant other. Even if you’re pissed off, talk to them how you’d like to be talked to and dealt with. Sometimes when pointing out the other person’s flaws, we forget that we have problems too. We forget that we’re not perfect. We forget that we can get on somebody’s nerves too. Take the time to be patient and monitor what you say to one another. Build each other up. Encourage one another. Take time to listen. I promise you’ll see a change in your relationship. 🙂

~The Mrs.