There Are More Reasons to Serve God than Just Going to Heaven…

My relationship with Jesus is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. It isn’t perfect (on my end), but my life has become one of the most adventurous, purposeful, and has had more worth and meaning since I decided to stop fighting and running. But I didn’t just fall in love for Heaven. I didn’t just decide to be on His team just to save myself from going to hell. Those are both great reasons, but they weren’t the number one reasons. Getting saved just so you won’t go to hell is not a good enough reason. It’s a reason, but you miss the totality of who He is and all that He can be while you’re alive!

Being with Jesus has given me and shown me a love like no other. He makes me want to be better. I want to be a better Allyson because I love Him and I want Him to have the best of me.

In the past, when I would make dumb decisions, I wouldn’t think twice about them. It was what I wanted to do and I did it. With Jesus, He at least makes me think twice before doing something dumb or something that would me in a negative way. I think twice because He’s always on my mind, whether I know it or not. I want to please Him. I want Him to smile at me.

In my lowest moments, He always understands. He listens. If I can’t talk to anyone, He is the one I run to. It’s a beautiful love we have. He showed me my purpose. He showed me who I was born to be so I wouldn’t keep wandering, doing things that didn’t align with my destiny. He knows me. The very essence of who I am. Even the places and pieces I don’t get, He does. The ugly parts of my He embraces and showers with His love. He loves me through my pain. Catches every tear. Puts me in my place when I’m wrong and loves me as I make it right.

And these reasons and examples are just the tip of the iceberg. Make the decision to serve God and enjoy His presence NOW. Heaven will always be there, but knowing and having the ability to know and love God while you’re still alive is a joy all is own. He will lead and guide you and love you to the core of your being. There are sides of Him you’ve never even touched.

Get to know God for who He is now,  so that when you do get to Heaven, your praise and worship will be even greater because you know in this life and when you see Him face to face, that’s He’s the almighty, wonderful, amazing God you’ve always known.

He’s full of hope, joy and love. If you’re looking for any of those, please, look to Him.

~Ally

So You WANT To Be A Loser?

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ~Marianne Williamson

Why do we voluntarily want to be losers? Why do we chose to be less than what we were created to be?

We work jobs just to pay bills. We tolerate awful relationships so that we won’t be lonely. We hang out with people whose vision is just as invisible as ours is… and yet we convince ourselves that we are doing great.

The quote above is one of my favorites. I’ve posted it in a previous post, but it always rings in my head. We’re afraid of our own power! We’re afraid that we are greater than we could ever imagine. We’re scared to step outside of the box we’ve been placed in because we won’t be with our friends or families. We want to be comfortable inside the box because that’s where everyone else is. But what good is that doing for you? You regret half the decisions you make, you’re angry with yourself for not doing better, and most of the time you don’t even like your life! DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

I don’t know about yall, but I’m tired of living just to be living. I’m tired of not making a great impact on the world around me. Who knows what will happen when I decide to live out my purpose and change the world around me? Who knows if when I step out and decide to be great, that others will believe that they too can be great?

WE CAN ALL BE GREAT!! We are filled with the amazing power of the Holy Spirit, which is God inside of us!

I’m talking about the same God that created the earth. I’m talking about the same God that gave Moses the power to part the sea. I’m talking about the same God who created every single person on this earth, whether they want to admit it or not. I’m talking about the same God who knew how to craft women’s bodies to birth a child on the inside. I’m talking about the same God that created all the different types of flowers, trees, birds, animals, fish, foods, and people.

That God lives on the inside of you and I! Which means that we have access to all that power! We can change nations! We can change lives! We can create and affect the places around us! We have the power to do so!

So why do we live mediocre, safe lives? Why are we afraid?

Let’s do better! Step outside of that comfort zone. Step out from among those who aren’t trying to do anything but eat, sleep, work, and die. Let’s stop pushing everyone else’s vision and make everyone else money, and let’s push our own vision and make our own money!

Stop Being a Loser.

~Ally A.

How Did I Get Here?

I been slackin…. But I have a good reason this time

:drumroll: I am now a resident of Baltimore, MD!!!! :does dance:

So my husband and I are corps members for Teach for America and we’ll both be teaching Elementary School in just a few short weeks! Crazy right?

I’ve continuously just thought about how I got here, and I can honestly say I have no clue… But I DO know that I got here by the grace and plans of God and God alone. Everything going on in my life right now I never dreamed of, thought of, spoke… nada. Everyday is a big shock to me as to where I am and how I got here. To be able to say that I am going to have a full time job impacting the lives of students, receiving a salary in Baltimore, MD with my husband of almost two years is still mind blowing to me.

This time two years ago, I was heading back to graduate school, still planning on being an opera singer, while in the back of my mind knowing that something else was out there for me. Those few thoughts that something else was out there for me was simply the planting of seeds to get me to where I am now. All I had to do was take that step. But it wasn’t easy. I told my mom today that when I left graduate school, it was like jumping off of a cliff into a foggy area down below with a still, small voice saying “Just jump. I got you”… and that voice being God. It’s never easy doing it either. But when God has proved Himself so much to you in your life, you literally have no excuse when God simply asks you to Jump. He never forces you and ultimately leaves the choice in your hand. But when you’ve lived a life full of God simply taking GREAT care of you, it makes you want to jump… especially when it means becoming and doing all that you were created to be and do.

You capable of more than your present situation right now. Even if you don’t have a degree in it . YOU CAN DO IT!

Our world tells us that if we didn’t go to school for it, take a class in it, attend a seminar on it that we can’t do it. BUT I’m here to tell you that THAT is a LIE. If God has purposed you for it, you can do it. He will and has given you the grace and everything you need to move forward to be the BEST you He purposed you to be. But it’s not just for you, it’s for the others in this world you’re meant to touch and help to become their best selves as well.

I can’t tell you how excited I am to begin this school year to teach these amazing 1st graders not just math and science, but how to be their best selves. I’m excited to see what God has in store for me and my Mr. here in this city of Baltimore, MD. We’re ready to work and be all that God has created us to be!

Pray for us!

~The Mrs.

The One Man

The One Man by Allyson R.

He Loves Me

How Can I Tell?

It’s obvious

Listen to how He talks to me

He speaks of a love

That I’ve never known before

And will never know

Without Him around

His words are so genuine

I know they’re the truth

How?

I have evidence

I remember the lies that were told to me

I remember the promises spoken to me

I remember the love I thought I had

And I compare it

I compare it to His truth

I compare it to the unbroken vows

I compare it to the love I know I have

That’s how I know

He’s the one man that I can depend on

He’s the one man that has never broken my heart

He’s the one man that’s never had to explain Himself

I’ve never had to question His love for me

His actions speak volumes

Compared to the smaller things done

After one special event

I knew He was the One

With 3 nails

1 Cross

He created a 4 ever for us

And it continues daily

I mess up

I ignore Him

I don’t talk to Him for a while

But He still Loves me

It’s a love I need

It’s one I know I can depend

It will always exist

It is always present

I can’t escape it

I can’t shake it

I can’t tell Him to stop

Because He won’t

He loves me

And I love Him

He’ll always be

The One Man

My Epiphany of Beauty

A few days ago, My Black is Beautiful was spreading the word about their search for My Black is Beautiful Ambassadors. I was excited and read through their Official Rules. Within the rules was the question “What is Beauty?”. I sat up and paused for a moment. I looked over at my Mr. and sparked up a conversation about what we thought beauty was. Of course his answer was intellectual and amazing (lol), but I couldn’t put into words what beauty was… and then as I started to answer, the words began to flow…

Beauty is the uniqueness of a person. It seemed to cliché of course, but at the same time, it has a new meaning.

After reading about the new OCD (Check out my blog about it!) being Obsessive Comparison Disorder, this epiphany about what beauty is took my mind on a different route. We sit and compare ourselves all day to someone else, envying and coveting who they are, what they’ve done and what they have, that our sadness and depression comes from not being them. The issue is that we disregard who we are to covet who they are, ignoring the fact that we have accomplishments, success stories, and so much more that we’ve done. We’ve forgotten about celebrating one another and owning who we are… our unique gifts to society.

Do you realize that there is no one else on this plant and that there will be no one else on the planet to look, talk, and walk like you do? There is no one who can travel the path you have traveled, endure the hardships you have endured, and tell your story like you can. You are unique. God wanted to do it that way because He knew through the different being He created on this planet, He could do different things. If we all looked alike and did the same things, what use would there be for differences?

Picture yourself in an audition room. They call your name. You walk up but they’re confused because you look just like the last person. There’s nothing to make you stand out from everyone else because everyone is trying to be everyone else. Some want to look like Beyoncé. Some want to look like Nicki Minaj. Some want to look like Taylor Swift. Some want to be Jay-Z. Some want to be Trey Songz. But it seems like NO ONE wants to be themselves. Everyone wants to put together pieces of other people to represent themselves… and that is simply NOT YOU!

Who are you when all the influences from the outside world are taken away? If no one told you that you’re a good singer or dancer, would you even be doing it? What do you have to bring to the table? What we’re all trying to bring now has already been brought. We don’t want remakes, WE WANT ORIGINALS!

There is a reason that there are only 7 Wonders of the World. They each embody something that has never been seen or done before. It takes the breath away of those who lay eyes on it. It can’t be duplicated. People travel from all over the world to see them. People spend money to see them because they know that they will never see it anywhere else. The unique qualities about you is truly a wonder because it has never been seen or done before. But if we spend our time trying to mimic and be something else, we get looked over because “that’s been done before.”

There is beauty in the differences the we all have. There is beauty in your hair, your body, your voice, your talents, your gifts, your smile, your eyes… you are beautiful just the way God made you because He made NO ONE ELSE LIKE YOU. Embrace and enjoy the beauty in the uniqueness of others, then look at yourself and embrace your own.

~The Mrs.

The New OCD: Obsessive Comparison Disorder

If you haven’t already read her blog on the Huffington Post website, I’m sure you soon will. J.N. Salters has a new blog post called “My 20s Weren’t Supposed to Be Like This: Getting Through the Quarter-Life Crisis”. She gives us a brief insight into what 25 looks like (an age I’ll be hitting this mid-July). Basically it sucks in so many words (lol) She mentions something that stuck out to me called the new OCD- Obsessive Comparison Disorder. Crazy right? Too bad majority of us have it… including me.

OCD- Obsessive Comparison Disorder is a term coined by Paul Angone from his book “101 Secrets For Your Twenties” to describe “our compulsion to constantly compare ourselves with others, producing unwanted thoughts and feelings that drive us into depression, consumption, anxiety and all-around discontent. It encourages us to stay up late on Facebook pouring through all 348 pictures of our frenemies’ “My Life is Better Than Yours” album, and then it sends us to bed wondering why we feel so anxious.” (Angone, 2013; Read More…) Sound familiar?

Now of course I’ve already written about this in a previous blog (Read Here), but after reading Salters’ blog, I felt the need to talk about it again, but this time offer suggestions on a home remedy for this disorder that is causing us to:

1) Feel depressed about our own lives

2) Cause gaps and separation within our relationships with people

3) Discourage ourselves before we even start

4) Causing us to shop and spend money we don’t have and eat food we don’t need, to only turn around and feel bad about ourselves again when we see our friend in a two piece bathing suit or wearing a fitted shirt that we wouldn’t dare try to wear because of our Santa bellies

Home remedy #1: Take A Hiatus from Social Media: I just got back from a Social Media Hiatus for a month and it felt great because I wasn’t somewhere self-torturing myself looking at everyone else! Trust me, the world is not going to fall apart if they don’t know every thing you’re doing and eating. Your friends will not die if they don’t know what you had for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. YOU will not die if you don’t tell the world your opinion on the dress you saw this woman wearing at Wal-Mart. When I took a break, I noticed that I didn’t care as much about stuff as I did when I felt the need to update on social media.

Home remedy #2: Celebrate Others: Now I don’t mean be fake and make yourself happy for someone. I think one of our issues as people is that we don’t celebrate other’s accomplishments, but choose to get angry because we aren’t where they are. Then we find the flaws in their accomplishments to make ourselves feel better. STOP! It’s okay that he/she got engaged. Maybe she was ready for that. If someone gave you a ring today, you might not be ready! It’s great that she got a new job… but that’s her job! You have your own job! You have your own life! I’ve learned that I cannot desire someone else’s life because I don’t know what they went through to get it and that maybe if I press myself a little further, I could get one too! Just be HAPPY for people!

Home remedy #3: Celebrate Yourself: Yes, this is something that we don’t do enough for ourselves. No one is saying to brag and be conceited. But I am saying that you should take joy in what you’ve done. You’ve made it over some humps in your life. You’ve fought through some battles and you’ve WON! That is a reason to celebrate. YOU are something to celebrate. You’ve made it to places in your life you probably never dreamed of. Celebrate YOU! Don’t down play the person you’ve become or the accomplishments you’ve made because you’re not someone else…. Celebrate what you’ve done and keep going.

Home remedy #4: Work on Loving Yourself: We have to work on our own insecurities. It goes beyond the external things, but deals with the internal as well. We begin to define ourselves according to what others have that we don’t. People use the same old slogan “the grass is greener on the other side”… but my pastor use to say “your grass would be greener too if you watered and took care of it!” The more you work on loving everything about you, including your weight, your pimples, your hair, your skin tone, your style and your mind, the less you feel the need to compare yourself because you realize that you are something great and unique.

You were made that way on purpose 🙂

~The Mrs.

Why I’m Married and You’re Not Pt. 2

Hey!

Back with the second part of ‘Why I’m Married and You’re Not’!

When we last left off, I was giving some background info on what I did before I got married, the preparations that I made before I even said “I Do”. But this blog… I’m taking in a whole different direction 🙂

We as people have a lot of personal issues… can we just be real? We hold on too long to those we shouldn’t even be friends with, but we let go or mess up the ones who treated us right. It’s almost like we are afraid to be treated right. Sounds crazy, but it’s the truth. So I’m just going to be real with yall for a minute. Is that cool?

1) Stop Going Back. Now I could stop right there because in its simpliest form, we can see the meaning. Now I’m not talking about the more difficult situations where people are going through more than we can imagine, but I’m talking to the people who are going back just because they don’t want to be alone for a moment. I dealt with that too, and it was a hard point. I was in two awful relationships with people who verbally abused me, causing me to have to get myself together in the end… and I kept going back when I should’ve just stayed away! They are not and will not be the only people who ever like you or show you attention in your life. There are billions of people on the planet…. you WILL get someone better.

2) Stop Falling For the Randoms. Now YOU know who they are. They are simply people who we talk to in order to pass the time away. We don’t like them for real. In fact, they aren’t even that cute. They are simply there to fill a void and a space. They could be the guy you only call when you feel like playing hard to get. It could be that girl you only text when you want some. They are simply just a filler… like when you don’t know what to say and you start to say “umm” and “like”… They are a waste of your time, which is precious. Stop talking, texting, and sexing the Umms and Likes in your life. (lol)

3) Stop Thinking You Deserve The Worst. Yes, you may have issues. You may have a very ugly past. You have been a dog before. You’ve played with people’s hearts. You don’t have a lot of money. This may all be true and more, but you do not deserve the worst in a significant other. I believe that some people settle because they don’t feel like they will get anyone better based on who they are or their past. So a man may date a woman he doesn’t even like because he doesn’t think he can approach the woman he desires to have as a wife. A woman may continue to date a man who treats her bad because she doesn’t feel as if she’s worthy of being treated like a lady. But YOU ARE WORTH IT!

That’s all for now… I might have more later (lol)

Love you guys!

~The Mrs.