Where our Imagination Can’t Go …

I can admit that I have a very active imagination. There are moments that I can just sit and daydream about life ; where I want to be, who I want to be, and where I see myself going. But there are some places even my imagination Can’t go.

See a lot of my daydreams are about far away places or places that will take me a while to go to in my eyes. But What I ‘ve realized about my imagination is that Places that are very possible and very near are hard to imagine. Why ? Because its too real to imagine. I think that the closer we are to a possibility becoming a reality, the more we have to put away the dreaMs and the “If this happens” mentality. When we get closer to that reality, something in us must shift from “If this happens” to “When this happens”. when many of us get to this point, fear sets in because we never made plans for our dreams. why? Because the expectation was that they Would never come true…

So our dreams and imaginations never have depth and never move from their place in the sky because we assume that they will never come true. But who says they won’t? We may not be millionaires, but we can accomplish anything we put our minds to!!

Put the pen to paper! Start drafting your dreams!

I’ve never written a book before. I’ve never taken a class or been mentored by someone who did. But I believed that I had Something valuable to say and that others could learn from it. So I just started to write. I read 1 Short e-book on writing a book and just kept writing… and I finished! But I had to first believe in my own dream enough to sit down and write about it.

You can do this … whatever your “this” is … just decide that today You will take that dream and make it Come to life. Don’t live a life of Regret.

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Where our Imagination Can’t Go …

I can admit that I have a very active imagination. There are moments that I can just sit and daydream about life ; where I want to be, who I want to be, and where I see myself going. But there are some places even my imagination Can’t go.

See a lot of my daydreams are about far away places or places that will take me a while to go to in my eyes. But What I ‘ve realized about my imagination is that Places that are very possible and very near are hard to imagine. Why ? Because its too real to imagine. I think that the closer we are to a possibility becoming a reality, the more we have to put away the dreaMs and the “If this happens” mentality. When we get closer to that reality, something in us must shift from “If this happens” to “When this happens”. when many of us get to this point, fear sets in because we never made plans for our dreams. why? Because the expectation was that they Would never come true…

So our dreams and imaginations never have depth and never move from their place in the sky because we assume that they will never come true. But who says they won’t? We may not be millionaires, but we can accomplish anything we put our minds to!!

Put the pen to paper! Start drafting your dreams!

I’ve never written a book before. I’ve never taken a class or been mentored by someone who did. But I believed that I had Something valuable to say and that others could learn from it. So I just started to write. I read 1 Short e-book on writing a book and just kept writing… and I finished! But I had to first believe in my own dream enough to sit down and write about it.

You can do this … whatever your “this” is … just decide that today You will take that dream and make it Come to life. Don’t live a life of Regret.

Why I’m Married and You’re Not Pt. 2

Hey!

Back with the second part of ‘Why I’m Married and You’re Not’!

When we last left off, I was giving some background info on what I did before I got married, the preparations that I made before I even said “I Do”. But this blog… I’m taking in a whole different direction ūüôā

We as people have a lot of personal issues… can we just be real? We hold on too long to those we shouldn’t even be friends with, but we let go or mess up the ones who treated us right. It’s almost like we are afraid to be treated right. Sounds crazy, but it’s the truth. So I’m just going to be real with yall for a minute. Is that cool?

1) Stop Going Back. Now I could stop right there because in its simpliest form, we can see the meaning. Now I’m not talking about the more difficult situations where people are going through more than we can imagine, but I’m talking to the people who are going back just because they don’t want to be alone for a moment. I dealt with that too, and it was a hard point. I was in two awful relationships with people who verbally abused me, causing me to have to get myself together in the end… and I kept going back when I should’ve just stayed away! They are not and will not be the only people who ever like you or show you attention in your life. There are billions of people on the planet…. you WILL get someone better.

2) Stop Falling For the Randoms. Now YOU know who they are. They are simply people who we talk to in order to pass the time away. We don’t like them for real. In fact, they aren’t even that cute. They are simply there to fill a void and a space. They could be the guy you only call when you feel like playing hard to get. It could be that girl you only text when you want some. They are simply just a filler… like when you don’t know what to say and you start to say “umm” and “like”… They are a waste of your time, which is precious. Stop talking, texting, and sexing the Umms and Likes in your life. (lol)

3)¬†Stop Thinking You Deserve The Worst.¬†Yes, you may have issues. You may have a very ugly past. You have been a dog before. You’ve played with people’s hearts. You don’t have a lot of money. This may all be true and more, but you do not deserve the worst in a significant other. I believe that some people settle because they don’t feel like they will get anyone better based on who they are or their past. So a man may date a woman he doesn’t even like because he doesn’t think he can approach the woman he desires to have as a wife. A woman may continue to date a man who treats her bad because she doesn’t feel as if she’s worthy of being treated like a lady. But YOU ARE WORTH IT!

That’s all for now… I might have more later (lol)

Love you guys!

~The Mrs.

The Beauty of Love

There’s something about someone who loves you in spite of you… someone who blocks out the world and what they have to say just to love you… someone who’ll do whatever to prove they love you. It’s the kind of love you never have to second guess. You never have to sit up at night and fear losing it to someone else. There’s something about love the encompasses you and becomes concerned with loving only you… giving you the security you need to never be¬†afraid¬†of it cheating on you. There is something… about that love.

I’m blessed to say that it’s kind of love that found me… not just once, but twice. The first being my junior year of college and most recently, December¬†31st, 2013. The love of Jesus Christ came and¬†engulfed me my junior year. I had been giving my body away to different strangers, walked away from God after being born and raised in church, and became consumed with this empty vessel called Allyson. But in a matter of moments, He called my name and told me He still loved me and wanted to use me. For the next few days, Jesus chased me down and wouldn’t let go til I said okay. ¬†He found me in my wilderness called life, where I thought no one could go, let alone find me… but He did… and since then, I’ve never been the same. Being trapped by a love I’ve never known took me off guard… but I didn’t want to fight it. It was one I tried to duplicate in relationships and never seemed to get right. It was a love I did nothing to deserve. It was finally a love that I could do nothing to shake. It was an “inearnable’ love that I had finally obtained because I was just… well¬†there.

I still haven’t wrapped my mind around it… and I won’t ever be able to. To know someone who loves me just because… even when I screw up and suck at life? Seems impossible right? Especially after all the “love” we’ve experienced… where after we mess up once, it’s all over and we can never live it down, like the “I love you’s” were never spoken at some point in time…

The next time as with my partner-in-crime, ride-or-die, My Mr. He loves me like Christ loves me, which is a requirement when it come to marriage. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”¬†(Ephesians 5:25 NIV)¬†Those of you who know me know the relationships I had full of empty “I love you’s”

I soon discovered that I was on the search for a love that had to come find me.

¬† ¬† ¬† The days I cheated, the empty nights of pointless sex, the long hours of fighting, the tears… none of it seemed worth it when real love introduced itself to me; ever so politely. I did nothing to deserve it, nothing to earn it, and didn’t ask for it. Quincy told me that I made it easy for him to love me. He told me that love for him, was a choice, which is true.

¬† ¬† ¬† The beauty of Love is that it is a choice to love someone. It’s nothing you should be forced into and it’s nothing that you should take for granted. When you sit back and make the choice to love someone, you’re choosing to love them for who they are, including all of their crazy parts and annoying habits, but it’s your choice in the end. It’s not something you shrug your shoulders and just say out of habit or out of expectancy. If you don’t love someone, don’t say it. Many of us have the issue with saying I love you because we love to hear ourselves say it and hear someone else say it to us. When we’ve spent a lot of time together, we think it has to be automatic so we say it out of habit. When we sleep with someone and the sex was great, we say I love you because maybe we felt something different with them… when in reality it was the newness of an undiscovered orgasm we’ve never had before.

¬† ¬† ¬† The reality of true love is that it sometimes comes when you least expect it because you did nothing to deserve it in that moment it was gained. When Quincy and I first began to talk and get serious, I hadn’t put any of my “old moves” on him to con him into loving me. He made the choice and stuck with it. It wasn’t a sway in his decision just because I made him mad one day, so if that’s how your love is, here’s news… IT’S NOT LOVE! Love is unconditional. It’s not subject to any conditions!!! Love won’t come out of something I did for you. Love won’t disappear because I didn’t do something you liked. Love will stay and stick because you make the choice to love in spite of.

¬† ¬† ¬† The reality of the love the found me was that I had to get to know the love of Christ first, because in that I discovered how I was to be loved and treated. Christ knows your worth. He knows how to love you… He died for you because He wanted to because He LOVES you. When I knew what Christ’s love was like, I was able to discern what was and what wasn’t…. it had to come find me, and it had to love me in spite of me because it wanted to, and it would do whatever it had to in order to prove it to me. So when love came and found me the second time around… I recognized it as soon as I saw him. I knew from the 3 conversation that I would marry the man I’m married to today. There was something about the way he talked to me that was familiar. There was something about the way he showed he cared that was familiar. It was the love of Christ pouring out of him and onto me.

¬† ¬† ¬† The beauty of love is that God is love. You know love, you know God and vice versa. You know God, you know the way love is supposed to go. Embrace Him. Discover His love… then wait for His love to come and find you.

~The Mrs.